Check one off the to do list. I’ve finished the baby brain book. The book is Brain Rules for Baby : How to Raise a Smart and Happy Child from Zero to Five. Smart? Happy? Sign me up.
Of course, this means it has taken me about 2 months to ignore the advice of the first book I read and gravitate toward something that claims to help make my child smarter. That’s ok, I’m probably going to flip flop on a hundred things over the next few years.
The book also brought up something that I notice quite a bit in the child rearing arena, conflicting information. You may know of examples. This book conflicted with the Parenting, Inc. book I read earlier. The example from these books is their views on baby signing. Parenting Inc. was against, Baby Brain is for (along with a few of our readers).
It can be frustrating, but you take each viewpoint and make your own decisions. You have to remember their motivations, and take them into consideration. Parenting, Inc. is making the point that baby stuff is business and not to take the companies’ viewpoints at face value because they are more concerned about selling you stuff. This book is relaying actual research on the subject.
Anyway, I actually really enjoyed this book. It was an easy read and reinforced some of my beliefs I started out with; things like the best toy for a child is a cardboard box, crayons and 2 hours, or the importance of praising effort over “smartness”. It also reminded you that there is nothing you can do to make your child graduate from Harvard. What I mean by that is you can take away all the barriers and provide the best, most stimulating environment, but there is still a maximum affect each one of us has; there are some things you just can’t control.
The problem I have is that there is so much information that you have already forgotten much of it by the end of the book. Luckly, since he’s a brain guy, he knows this, and provides nice synopses at the end of each chapter and at the end of the book. I may not pick up the book to read all over, but I’ll definitely read the snippets again.
Here’s a few of tips I liked best:
- The brain seeks safety above all
- What is obvious to you is obvious to you
- Babies are born with their own temperament
- Empathy makes good friends
- Labeling emotions calms big feelings
- Discipline + warm heart = moral kid
- Let your yes be yes and your no be no.
The best part, it’s a item done off the to do list. Now, can we get the call?